Be Careful What You Wish For Because You Might Just Get It!

Be careful what you wish for because you might just get it!

Each time you declare “I don’t want” you are wishing for that very thing. Be warned.

After I had recovered from my divorce I made a commitment to never allow myself to be hurt again by another man. I wished to be safe and pain free. At the same time, I also decided I wanted, in time, to meet a new partner and possibly extend my family.

What I was unaware of was that these two objectives were going to work directly against each other. All relationships have highs and lows. There is joy and pain in life.

If I was achieve my first wish, a safe and pain free life then I was not going to enter into any relationship. If I was to achieve my second I knew in my very core it would entail some hurt and risk.

The fear of the pain was far greater and probable than the prospect of Prince Charming showing up for a Disney Princess existence.

So it was no surprise that I managed to attract a series of inappropriate suitors for the next 5 years.

In time I was able to be clearer as to the type of person who was less likely to hurt me. I started to think about and focus more on the values the person was likely to have. I wanted a man with honour and valour.  Ironically, I started to attract a certain type of man. Over a few years I dated an ex-soldier, an ex RAF engineer and a serving police officer. I wasn’t consciously looking for people in uniform and this was before the internet could do this type of matching.

I wasn’t using e-harmony or Tinder I was using the Universal Dating System and it was my heart that was setting my match criteria.

In time I was helped by a holistic practitioner to establish my real focus and express my true desire.

That evening I met a serving Army Sergeant and the rest, as they say, is history. Oh and yes there have been tears of joy and pain but I now also realise that this is called life.